Nurturing Relationships With Others: Why Connection Is Worth the Effort

If you're like me you stay pretty busy. When things get hectic, some things can get pushed to the side. If we're not careful, what can get pushed away are relationships with other people.

Connections can be tricky things – we usually like and want them, but once we have them we realize that time and energy are required to keep them going. So sometimes it's easier to back out of that lunch date, not answer the call from a friend, or find an excuse to miss the get-together.

Why Relationships Matter for Your Health

Research shows that relationships can have the following benefits:

• Fewer health problems
• Greater longevity
• More happiness
• Lower levels of stress

The fact is that most of us NEED good connections with others – we're wired that way. Yes, dealing with other people can be complicated, take effort and time, and sometimes be frustrating. But the benefits far outweigh the costs.

How to Invest in Your Relationships

If this is a stressful area for you, evaluate the relationships you do have. Start moving out of the negative ones and put more time into the positive, helpful ones. Positive Psychology has a saying I love: "There are no happy hermits." Start focusing on those strong, supportive relationships and give them the energy they deserve. You'll be glad you did.